People Pleaser
Reminder: We are here to be real life.
I am a recovering people pleaser. I once found my worth by how many people I could convince I was a “good person.”
I spent 2024 finding my own peace with this. I am comfortable knowing I can’t and won’t ever be able to please everyone. I am not always a great person.
Then on the 5th day of 2025, I was hit with some truth. (This post has sat in drafts for 20 days. I wasn’t going to post it. Then today in my daily reading I was given 3 different “nudges” to post.)
I recently found myself going straight to Coach to vent about people. “They really drive me crazy when they do this……” “This really upset me! Why did they do that!” “I can’t even with blahblahblah.” “They drive me crazy!” “I hate when this person does this to me. WHY are they like that?”
I was reading in my chair this morning when I read, “I command these things of you, that you may love one another. If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you.”
2024 Carley would instantly be all, “Yeah! God loves me. I should only please God! If they don’t like me, they really have deep down issues with themselves!”
2025 Carley…. was hearing loud and clear… people aren’t here to please you! You are here to love them. If someone upsets you, what’s the difference that if you upset them? If you don’t like someone, Carley…. this is actually an issue with YOU! NOT THEM.
I was once a people pleaser, but now I find myself rolling my eyes when people don’t do things that please me. How awful?!
So I am going to be more mindful when I walk into a situation where I can easily vent about someone or some situation. I am trying to be more, “I’m not here to please people, and people aren’t here to please me.”
I have LOVED this daily study and devotion I am working through. One of the big reasons I decided to pull this particular post out of the drafts was this: “Instead of our first reaction being to label her based on what she is doing right now, let’s pray for her based on what she’s probably facing right now.” -Lysa TerKeurst
I also happened to flip through my journal and two seconds later saw this from January 2nd.
Loud. And. Clear.
